How to deal with anger ?

A question which always comes to my mind is when we say that a man should conquer his 5 senses and should avoid greed , lust , anger , ego , illusion etc then why did God or Universe make these at all. In particular say Anger. If it was so bad why did God create anger at all. 

So I asked many people in my Whatsapp group and I got very interesting answers and some real points to ponder. 

But that does not answer the basic question.

Why God created anger in the first place ? 

Let's introspect.

God created human being with free will. Human being is the only creation which exercises total free will. 

He can do whatever he likes , achieve whatever he wants , enjoy whatever he likes and create whatever he is driven to create. 

That's a good point as well as a bad point.

Good since it gives liberty 

Bad as in it doesn't describe boundaries. 

Anger is a tool which creates boundaries and limits. 

You disturb a sleeping lion he will bear it , you disturb him again he may still bear it, but if you keep on disturbing it there will come a point where he will retaliate. 

Now this retaliation comes from the emotion of anger. If there was no anger it won't retaliate even if you disturb it to ages.

Similarly we keep destroying nature but nature does not react. But if we keep on destroying nature at one point nature will react with anger and retaliate by means of tsunami or earthquake or heavy rains. 

So anger is necessary to create a boundary and discipline.

If that is so why do we say anger is bad ? 

Anger is bad because the way we use anger is wrong. 

Anger is like one of the weapons in a warriors armory. And the rule goes like this 

1) Weapons are used only when necessary. 

2) Weapons are used as per situation demands. We don't use a tank to kill an enemy soldier.

3) Third and most important, weapon is a tool but the warrior doesn't become the weapon. What does that mean? Anger is only a tool and we discard the tool after use. We don't sleep with the tool.

After every tsunami nature comes back to its creative phase and does not carry it over. 

So the best way to handle anger is to handle it like a tool. 

Always reprimand the action and not the person and never carry it to bed.

Don't make love with anger 

And only a heart filled with love won't get angry over small issues 

Patience V/s Persistence

A friend of mine pinged me and asked "What is the difference between Patience and Persistence? 

And I said to myself "What a simple question!" 

Patience is a virtue where in a person can wait for anything endlessly having faith that it is going to happen irrespective.

Persistence is a virtue by which a person takes certain action consistently even if he is not getting result or has any chance of getting results.

The answers were very simple but when I introspected deeply I found that it was a Pandora's box. 

I wondered that if both are a virtue then I should develop both the virtues in me. But then if I develop patience then I should take an action and wait patiently for the result to come. Which means no more action. And that is against the so called virtue of persistence which says keep throwing stones till the bulb is broken. 

My friend answered no it's not like that, you take an action , wait for the result to come and if the result doesn't come in a stipulated time then try again and persists till it happens.

I said ahaa .. but who decides till when to observe patience .. and again the moment a thought comes enough is enough I need to try once more , points out that patience is lost and action is required. Catch 22 

So Patience and Persistence cannot live together!!!

Let me give you an analagy..

Wild dogs are said to be the best hunters with maximum hit rate because once the team locates a possible prey it starts chasing it till the prey is exhausted and cannot walk more. Persistence pays and they devour the prey.

At the same time lion is not persistent. It cannot chase a prey till the end. So it waits for the prey to come near to it, and then pounces it. They have been noted to wait for the prey to come to them for hours.

They can lie motionless for hours. 

One more better example is Anaconda which can lie for months in wait of prey. Height of patience. 

So as wise human beings how do we imbibe both the virtues which seem contradictory?

And then I read about ducks and how they swim. If you notice a duck over the water it is calm, composed and swimming effortlessly. But if you see beneath the waters it's feet's are paddling continuously with great Persistence.

And eureka the solution dawned.

Patience is a thought process and not action oriented. So whenever we are expecting anything we should be calm , composed and have faith that we shall be rewarded one day. It is all about mind game. That way we will never get agitated, whatever the interim results are. Just practice Patience over mind. 

Persistence is action oriented and is related to body. So while our mind is waiting patiently for result to turn into our favor but at the same time our body is restless and keeps on working till the goal is not achieved. 

This is called working with detachment ..

Why most people fail is ..

They do not persist in their actions but at the same time they are impatient in their mind and when results don't come they start blaming the world , God , friend , family , society , country , weather etc etc ..

So the right amalgamation of Patience and Persistence will lead to manifestation of all our dreams... 

Khudi ko kar buland itna .. Raise your vibration

Khudi ko kar buland itna ke har taqdeer se pehle 

Khuda bande se ye pooche, bata teri razaa kya hey 

Raise your vibrations so high that before writing your fate 

Universe is compelled to ask you , what do you desire .. 

We have been reading about this since childhood but what does it actually mean , or do we really understand and imbibe the meaning.

Let's again understand with an analagy ..

Suppose we are sitting in a room and there is a bad smell emanating from somewhere. We try to search the source but we can't find it. So what do we do ?

There are 2 ways to it 

1 We ignite an essence candle. The candle will first burn itself. And then produce a soothing fragrance. The fragrance will first purify the smell around it's candle and slowly slowly it will spread to larger space until it envelopes the whole room. 

If it is allowed to burn more it might actually spread to other rooms. 

Has the bad smell gone .. a big no.

What has actually happened is the candle created a Universe of soothing smell around it's area with Persistence.

If we take a look at "this" Universe from top we would find the following.

A cloud of bad smell and in between that cloud a small patch which is unaffected by the smell and created a small universe of soothing smell. It is like that lamp which creates a Universe of light around itself in the midst of dark thick jungle. 

Fellow travelers we cannot change the whole universe , it is a humungous task and actually not our job. Our job is to create a small universe for ourselves to experience and all those who want to experience with you... 

"Create your own universe" my next book will give step by step details of how to do it. 

Till then start with writing your dreams and take one step at a time and persist till Universe says ...

Teri Razaa kya hey ... What's in your mind...

Why is death necessary..

One of biggest fears of any creation is death. We are so attached to this life that the very thought of death scares us. Have we ever wondered why? 

A) Uncertainty, because we don't know what's beyond life.

B) We are so much attached to this worldly experience that we don't want to leave it.

If that's the case why did God , Universe or whatever you may call created death, and if at all we need to die then why live at all.

This question bothered me for long and led to lot of introspection.

Well in the first place why are we living ? 

Universe/ God created this universal experience zone and wanted us to experience his creation and hence he created consciousness. Consciousness can only be created/ experienced when there is duality that is positive and negative , heat and cold , day and night , ego and love etc. There can be no conscious experience without duality.

Let me give you an analagy. 

Why do we see things? 

Because there is light. Correct. 

What if there was only light and no darkness. Just imagine we won't be able to see anything except a bright light. And same in case there was no light. We would be only seeing darkness everywhere. 

The most amazing part is not this , but the fact that we would have lived and died without even knowing what is light and darkness. How will we know that black is darkness if there was no light. Intriguing .

Now coming back to point , we got consciousness to experience the creation of universe but at the same time our soul always guides us to just watch the creation as a movie and not to get attached. Universe also gave us memory so that we can survive and co-create. 

What is watching the creation without getting attached? 

It is to become non judgemental. 

And universe gave us free will. 

Free will is like a sword. We can use it any which way. And we used it the wrong way. 

We became judgemental. Why he did like that to me? Why this is so? Why I fail? He is my dad , my mom , my wife , my friend , my enemy , my foe ...etc etc .. we get so much attached by being judgemental that we slowly progress from abundance to scarcity.

When we are born as a child did we have any of these judgemental emotions? No.

We had abundance. We were well fed , we laughed , we cried , we slept away to glory and we smiled. 

And as we grew older we started carrying burden of memories , mostly bad and revengeful to such an extent that we destroyed all abundance. 

In IT we say that if a cumputer hangs due to virus and cannot be cleaned the last resort is to format it. 

Death is nothing but reformating the harddisk and installing new softwares again. And we are back to abundance. 

It is Universal way of removing old memories. 

The day we realize that way to abundance is to forget and forgive .. we will not only live consciously but also we can control our life and death. Then it actually doesn't matter. 

So if we want to live healthy, with longitivity and abundance try forgiveness...

My suggestion to people who are obsessed with past life regression, don't do it unless very urgent. It is like poking the bees nest. 

Let me explain with an analagy. 

If 2 friends met and they slightly remember that one owed some money to other, but don't know how much. They can reconcile and forgive, forget fast and catch up again.

But if they went into past details and one friend found that the actual money is in lakhs .. Knowingly he won't be able to forget and forgive  ..

Doing past life regression is like opening old wounds .. dont do it if you are not matured enough to handle ..

Rather the best way is to forget and forgive .. love everyone and live happily and with abundance.. it is our birth right to live an abundant Life ...

#Abundance 

And Universe Conspired

"Every action has an equal and opposite reaction" when Newton discovered this he didn't realise what he had stumbled upon ..
What we call in our scriptures as law of karma .. or sow as you reap ..
The universe actually never conspires ..
Well don't be shocked to hear this coming from a person who eats breaths and speaks "Universe conspires"
Universe is actually damn bothered to conspire for 7 billion human beings and that too in a small planet Earth .. a miniscule amongst don't know how many billions of stars or planets in this universe .. and that too how many universe .. uffff

So what is this conspiracy theory ..

Well to begin with Universe is the laziest person around and wants just peace ..

Let's take an analagy ..


There is a lazy dad snoring away to glory ..
And his kid playing in mud suddenly wants a chocolate .. he cries ..
Dad opens his eyes and says shut up ...
That's the first negative thought which comes in us. .

Now if the child gives up .. then that's fate ..

But if the child persists on crying .. dad thinks of distracting .. he gives the kid an eclairs which he had in his pocket ..

If child takes the eclairs then that is "luck"

But if the child doesn't take and keeps on crying .. the dad understands .. if he needs to keep this kids mouth shut and have a great sleep he must get him the chocolate ..
And he calls swiggy to deliver the child his chocolate ..
And that's termed as "Conspires "

And now the child has defined his "DESTINY" 

The Blank Cheque

A CEO of a company was going through bad days, he was not able to meet expenses, got dejected and wanted to give up.

As he was contemplating about life sitting in a park an old man watching him asked
"Hey young man you look troubled?"
The businessman replied "I have lost everything, my business is in trouble, I just want to quit."

The old man took out a blank cheque in favor of the businessman and asked "Would this be ok for you to start again. Fill up whatever you want."

The businessman thanked the old man and asked
"But why are you helping me. I don't even know you!!!"

The old man replied
"I had struggled all my life to become a rich businessman and now I have retired and want to help as many people as I can"

The businessman left with a new vigour thanking him again and promising to pay back the person soon.

He kept the cheque in his safe not to be used until emergency , and started again with the same zeal and vigour, having the comfort zone that if he fails there is the cheque to be cashed.

Soon he regained his business and didn't need to use the money, so he thought of returning the cheque to the old man.

He waited for him at the same park asking people have they seen an old rich man.

One passer by replied ..
"That old man who distributes cheques ?"

The businessman replied
"Yes"

The passer by replied
"O we are also searching for him. He is from the mental hospital and he inadvertantly escapes and starts distributing cheques to people, if you get hold of him intimate us."

1 We all have people in our life who motivate us , encourage us , show us ways when we are into dark moments .. they are like these old man's cheque, though we can bank upon them .. but cannot encash them.. these are our real assets whom we neglect.. remember the last time we felt like giving up and maybe a child , a stranger , a message etc motivated you to start all over again ..

2 Such people who distribute blank cheques of motivation are usually called 🤣🤣 from mental asylum ...
But that's part and parcel of life ...
The old man's happiness
The blank cheque ....

Holika Dehan

Fellow travelers wishing you all a very happy Holi and that reminds me to the question as to what does the burning of Holika teach us.

As we all know that Holika was the sister of King Hiranyakashyap and was granted the boon that fire will not harm her. In a bid to get rid of Prahlad his devout son, the king planned the burning of Prahlad. He ordered Holika to take Prahlad with her to the burning pyre and since Holika was safe in the fire Bhakt Prahlad would be burnt alive.

What happened further amazed everyone!!

Though Prahlad escaped unhurt but Holika was burnt to death.

Why??

This answers the question which many of us ask ..

Do evil (negative) forces effect common man?

The answer is yes it does!

But at the same time no negative (evil) force can harm us if we are strong inside and have faith in ourselves. 

At the same time if negative forces fight against strong positive forces they lose their power and subsequently get destroyed. 

So remain positive by raising your vibrations and manifest what we desire but at the same time remember positive manifestation remains forever..

Happy Holi to all fellow travelers.