Spirituality Simplified

The prime requirement for any conversation is, there should be a speaker and a listener ..

If that's so how do we talk to ourselves..

Who is the talker and the listener ? 

All our self talks are between ego ( ego only rides on the body .. a dead man has no ego ..) and the spirit ( or soul whatever we may say .. a dead man will still have a soul .. it is said that even when body dies the soul still hasn't left the body .. stopping of breath and heart beat is just a start not the end .. ).

Just analyze a typical self talk ..

You see an accident victim .. 

Spirit guides : Go help him 

Ego says : I want to but don't want to mess with police 

Spirit: But that person needs your help 

Ego : There are so many there, somebody will help , why should I get entangled? Anyways I am getting late for office ! 

And ego won.. but the conscience is suffering.. all along the journey the conscience (or the soul experience) will keep pinching you .. till the time either you bow down to the soul calling ( soul calling is a very widely used misunderstood word. The soul always calls us .. we don't listen to it because of fear and lack of faith ) or we shut up the soul guidance  forever.

Now watch the self talk of a hardened criminal 

He gets a contract to kill a person, he goes there and shoots him. 

No self talk .. because whenever the soul wanted to guide him he won the argument by giving logics and one day soul stopped guiding him. 

Now please don't mistake here that the soul stops guiding anyone. The soul always guides the ego.. only difference here is there is so much other noises around the body that the ego is unable to hear the soul. 

That's why it is said 

Spend some time with yourself and you would find a amazing person ..

Hence being spiritual is not making others happy , giving service to others , helping others , or going to Temple , Church , Gurudwara or Mosque , it is non of these. They are the karma's of our body. As long as body is there we can perform these task. Try doing all the above without a body.

Being spiritual is not an outside process. It is an internal process. 

In simple words the more we start listening to our Soul and the more we develop faith in what our Soul guides us, the more we will come closer to our Soul. And the love affair with our Soul will start. 

The best soulmate of ours is we ourselves. 

The day we will actually merge with our Soul .. all self talk stops .. and we attain permanent moksha ..

Because if we do what our body/ego wants , that will develop karma and all karma needs to be countered hence we take rebirth.

But if we do what our Soul says it brings no karma effect, and we reduce our karmic baggage to the minimum and one day when we have 0 karmic baggage we attain permanent bliss.

The journey of human being is to go as closer to our Soul as possible.. that's spirituality.

Do we need a spiritual coach ? 

Yes because we are our bad masters. We need someone outside to discipline us. 

Who is the best guru ? 

Any one who has started this journey and is ahead of you to start with. 

And as you come closer to your soul then the soul takes over ..

Our Soul is our best guru ..

Start your soul search by starting meditation.

Health is wealth .. is it ??

Jo zyada shor machata hey wo sahi hey ..

Or hum log behre ho gaye hey issilye hum uuncha sunte hey ..

Have we noticed that lately we have become very much health conscious.. 

Detox , diet , exercise , yoga , meditation , retreats , programs .. what not ..

Have we really become health conscious ...!!! 

A very big NO..

There is a saying ..

A drunken snake walks straight ... 

Our health conscious persona is actually a cover up for our guilt ..

And nothing else ..

Have we seen any ad of health products..

Ye bhaag daud waali zindagi or thakna mana hey ...

Hey bhagwaan .. to chod do na bhag daud waali zindagi .. 

Nhi chod sakte .. because we have made a mental trap which says more the money .. more successful you are ..

And unfortunately we pass this stress to our next generation...

We have become a consumer oriented society .. 

What's my point here ...

Let me explain with example...

Which is the most important requirement for life ..

Food .. we can live a day without any food .. there are people who can for weeks or months ..

Water .. we can survive a day .. some can even do it more .. 

Air .. we can't survive minutes .. some can may be more but again in minutes only ...

The most important factor in living Air..

And everyone in this universe is equal in terms of Air ..

We exercise .. we breath more , we relax we breath less .. we take in the amount of air required.. we don't get greedy over air ..

Aaj lungs bhar hawa le leta hun ..

Kabhi hua hey aise 

Nhi.. 

Because the body knows how much is required .. and universe has provided that much for everyone..

The same was for food , land , water and other resources..

Unfortunately we became greedy and started storing .. and that's where all diseases start happening..

Stored water , stored food .. the biggest health challenge.

And over and above .. we eat like insecurities ..

Shaadi hey to daba ke khana hey ..

Kyu Bhai .. Kal nhi milega kya ...

If we treat water , food , money like air .. 

We will never fall sick ..

The mantra to a healthy lifestyle is not "diet" neither "exercise".. 

It is the way we eat 

Eat that much which body tells you and when you are hungry 

Drink that much which body demands 

And earn money that much which is required.. 

Live a healthy lifestyle ..

Out of 186000 species on Earth , only man needs Yoga , meditation , diet plan , detox , rejuvenation programs , gym etc etc ..

Because somewhere we have become so over endowed that we have forgotten to listen to our body .... Listen to our mind and listen to our Soul ...

Note : This post is not to demean Yoga , meditation or any program . I am a big promoter of Yoga and meditation and other practices .. and I follow them whole heartedly.. the whole point is if we don't listen to our body .. all the above is useless 

Pleasure, Happiness and Joy

Is there any difference between Pleasure , Happiness and Joy ?

On the face value they all look similar with slight difference of experience but when we retrospect then we find that they are world apart.

What is pleasure ? 

It is a feeling of enjoyment felt at body level and body level only. And that is why we seek pleasure. And we always seek something which is outside. 

So anything that titillates our 5 senses gives us pleasure. 

What is happiness ? 

Happiness is a state of mind. We do not necessarily require 5 senses to be happy. We are happy when say things go our way or when we meet someone near or dear to us , when we get good news etc. We don't seek happiness rather we feel happy. It is all to do with our mind. We can choose to be happy even if we hear a bad news. But bad news never gives us pleasure. 

Then what is joy ? 

Joy is never sought. Joy cannot be felt as well. So it has nothing to do with our body or mind. It has its root deep into our soul level. When we attain the state of remaining happy under all conditions we reach the state of being joyful. A joyful person is always energetic irrespective what happens outside. 

Joy is the state of being. 

And the purpose of life is to find how to be in a joyful state forever. Because only in this state we can be the manifestor and co-creator. 

For being joyful we do not require any external agency or senses. It is felt with our 6th Sense. 

How to graduate from pleasure to state of being joyful ? 

We can't have the cake and eat it too.

So first thing is to detach ourselves from seeking pleasure. The biggest challenge today as to why we have bad finances , bad health , bad relationship and lack abundance is because we have indulged ourselves to only seeking pleasure.

The day we detach ourselves from seeking pleasure we will find ways to be happy , and when we train ourselves to be happy everytime , we will graduate to being joyful everytime. And that's when we learn the art of unconditional love. 

Someone asked me can we ever be joyful to meet someone ..

Well if you are seeking pleasure you will be pleased to say meet a beautiful girl or handsome man or an influential person.

If you are wanting to be happy you will want to meet your dear friends or family members or your beloved. It's all about emotional connection and state of mind.

And the day you will meet your soul family who have been yours since universe got created , you will automatically feel joyful just like the way a dog reacts on seeing his master after a long time ..

Your body mind and soul will start dancing.. and you experience bliss

How to deal with anger ?

A question which always comes to my mind is when we say that a man should conquer his 5 senses and should avoid greed , lust , anger , ego , illusion etc then why did God or Universe make these at all. In particular say Anger. If it was so bad why did God create anger at all. 

So I asked many people in my Whatsapp group and I got very interesting answers and some real points to ponder. 

But that does not answer the basic question.

Why God created anger in the first place ? 

Let's introspect.

God created human being with free will. Human being is the only creation which exercises total free will. 

He can do whatever he likes , achieve whatever he wants , enjoy whatever he likes and create whatever he is driven to create. 

That's a good point as well as a bad point.

Good since it gives liberty 

Bad as in it doesn't describe boundaries. 

Anger is a tool which creates boundaries and limits. 

You disturb a sleeping lion he will bear it , you disturb him again he may still bear it, but if you keep on disturbing it there will come a point where he will retaliate. 

Now this retaliation comes from the emotion of anger. If there was no anger it won't retaliate even if you disturb it to ages.

Similarly we keep destroying nature but nature does not react. But if we keep on destroying nature at one point nature will react with anger and retaliate by means of tsunami or earthquake or heavy rains. 

So anger is necessary to create a boundary and discipline.

If that is so why do we say anger is bad ? 

Anger is bad because the way we use anger is wrong. 

Anger is like one of the weapons in a warriors armory. And the rule goes like this 

1) Weapons are used only when necessary. 

2) Weapons are used as per situation demands. We don't use a tank to kill an enemy soldier.

3) Third and most important, weapon is a tool but the warrior doesn't become the weapon. What does that mean? Anger is only a tool and we discard the tool after use. We don't sleep with the tool.

After every tsunami nature comes back to its creative phase and does not carry it over. 

So the best way to handle anger is to handle it like a tool. 

Always reprimand the action and not the person and never carry it to bed.

Don't make love with anger 

And only a heart filled with love won't get angry over small issues