Ardhanareshwar: balancing the energies

Balancing Energies..

First thing first ... 

We cannot balance anything which cannot be measured.. and we cannot measure anything which we have not accepted ...

"Ego" or masculine energy is not a bad word .. unfortunately it has been termed bad ..

Let me be frank .. 

If I have this mission to create a chemical free society, it routes out from the sense of self worth .. and this "Sense of self worth" is also ego ..

Ego the energy which motivates us to do something or create something.. 

So next time if someone says I don't have ego .. either it is a pretense or the word has been misunderstood.. 

Love the feminine energy 

Love is the glue of the social fabric .. love makes us empathizing, caring , protecting and nurturing in nature .. 

Unfortunately even love is misunderstood 

How often have we heard?

Nobody loves me ..🤔🤔

Arrey do you love yourself ? 

If the hotel owner is scared to eat in his own restaurant then why will others eat there .. ?? 😂😂

If we can't sell ourselves to ourselves then how will we sell it to others 🤔

So we see we have not  accepted and understood both the energies..

The whole universe is the illusion created by the "tug of war" between the dualities.. the nritya between feminine and masculine energy .. 

Why balance these energy ? 

Ego as we said is not bad .. but excess of anything is bad .. God gave us ego so that we can become co creators .. but as ego grows .. the "co" vanishes and we think we are The Creators 😂😂

How often we have heard 

"I AM A SELF MADE MAN" 

Arrey you forgot when you were needy and someone had pity on you and gave you your first break 🙇‍♀🙇‍♀🙇‍♀

Love also though termed as +ve energy has it's side effects .. 

Love was made to balance ego .. but too much love makes us overprotective .. and the worst part it makes us "Control seekers " 

It is said the purest form of "unconditional love" is Mother Son relationship.. 

If that's so why good mothers are bad "mother in law's" and good daughters are "bad daughter in laws" 🤔🤔

Now coming back to the point ..  balancing the energies as symbolized by Ardhanareshwar..

1Accept ego and love both as our allies .. 

2 live life as if watching a movie .. eg .. if someone praises us .. enjoy the praise .. boost your ego .. bask under the glory .. but don't take it home .. after we have relished the moment take a deep breath and say nice movie .. 

Similarly when we love someone set them free .. if they do something against our expectations think that "O this is a part of the movie .. the script says so" .. if we get angry .. experience the anger .. experience the pain .. but again don't take it home .. 

Similarly we can experience lust , hatred , jealousy, grief etc etc like a movie ...

The more we practice it the more we will become neutral .. and we will become embodiment of "Unconditional Love"

Law of detachment to the karma

Tools to accelerate balancing

Pranayam, meditation and practicing self love 

John Jaani Janardhan .. does religion have a place in today's world ?

I still remember the song so well from Naseeb..
John Jaani Janardhan Tara rara rum pum pum..
Sahib ne bulwaya ..haazir ho mein aaya ..

My story begins the moment I land in Rameshwaram station. As usual I am being scouted by autowallahs .. I told one autowallah and before he could negotiate his phone rang and he got busy .. next autowallah same story .. and I was wondering is this a coincidence..

Next I was escorted by another autowallah and I told him my hotel name and he said a price .. I asked him " Is it the correct price? " (I have stopped negotiating with people who sweat their way to earn.. I just ask once this question) 

He said "Yes" 

I boarded the auto and was first surprised to see this sticker of Jesus .. Mecca and Sai ..

I was happy and surprised and I asked "what's your name ?" 

He said "John" 

"And why did you post all the three religion pics ?" I asked 

"There are 3 seats and there is a place for all three in my auto?" He replied 

And we became friends.

Since I had 2 days I asked how much will you charge for a full day tour of Rameshwaram?" 

He told a price to which I asked the same question. He replied affirmatively and I agreed. 

The next day I checked out of the hotel and was at his disposal to let me roam around Rameshwaram and then drop me at the bus stand for bus to Chennai ( couldn't get reservation in train ) 

I wanted to check-in the baggage at cloak room but he said "Put it in the auto I will take care of it while you roam." 

Was I apprehensive yes for a moment .. but then I remembered .. have faith ....

It was a wonderful tour .. he made me visit all the temples and especially the ride to Dhanush Kodi was replenishing. 

There is a straight road to Dhanush Kodi and on both side is sea .. the most beautiful part of it was that on my right side the sea was excuburant .. full of energy. . white foam waves over lapping each other .. and on my left side sea was calm and peaceful.. the yin and yang coexisting .. it was breathtaking ..

We reached back early so he dropped me at the hotel where I waited in the lounge and I asked him to come back to drop me to bus stand. 

Meanwhile I learnt about his family of 2 kids and wife and his 2 brothers who worked in Dubai..

He came at 7 to drop me to bus stand and when we reached there the bus had not arrived .. 

A new place to me and unknown language and it was dark .. so I reconfirmed how will I know where the bus would come ..

He helped me talk to customer support in their language and when he found that I was helpless he said these reassuring words ..

" Don't worry bhaiya I will see to it that you board the bus ." 

I smiled ...

He said let's have tea and we sat in a restaurant and shared tea. The tea was really good .. 

Sometimes happiness comes in small cups 

As we again waited for the bus I asked " There must be lot of churches here ?"

He asked me "What bhaiya?"

I asked again .. "You are a Christian na .. so you must be having lot of churches here." 

He said "No bhaiya I am a Muslim !!!!" 

And I was amazed and surprised.

"How come John then? " I asked 

"My dad named me like that." He replied ..

I just wondered "Does religion ever exists or it is just our creation ?" 

We became greater friends and we took selfies and we also connected on FB (Yes he has an FB account ) and I promised to him that whenever I or my friends come to Rameshwaram we will take your service ..

My bus arrived and I bade him good bye .. carrying back lots and lots of memories..

#JaiHind 

Love can heal .. heal yourself

The only healing energy in this universe is love .. "Unconditional love" ... 
Rest everything is an excuse and a medium..

Yesterday I was in Rameswaram, somehow I am drawn by it's serenity and secondly, I had to immerse my Mom's ashes. So as soon as I reached Rameswaram I checked into the hotel and the first thing I did was to take the ashes and walk down away from the hustle-bustle of the temple into the loneliness and serenity of the sea.

As I walked across the shore .. waves lapping on my feet I saw a fish.. I thought it was dead .. one of the remnants of fishermen's booty which might have spilled over. 

I picked it up and saw it was breathing slowly .. may be it's last..

I felt pity for it .. and suddenly I noticed one side of its face was swollen. And I remembered something...

My mom .. she had cancer on her left face and it was also swollen. As I held the fish wondering what I could do to save it , I could feel the same helplessness which I felt when I had embraced my mom, the helplessness in front of death ...

Feeling sad I just blessed it and put it back in the sea.. wishing it recovers ..

I went further and found the right spot to immerse the ashes .. and as I immersed it, I just asked for forgiveness from my mom and gave forgiveness to her for any grudges I had held... Sigh....

I sat there for an hour or so absorbing the sea .. intermittently the fish catching birds swooning into the sea to catch fish .. and a white and black eagle perched on top of the tree looking for an opportunity to hunt.. 

As I walked back along the shores I wondered what would have happened to that fish ..

And lo and behold I found the fish .. I don't know if it was the same fish but it looked very similar except that the lump was missing .. but it was also breathing it's last .. having pity on it I threw it also in the sea ..

I walked back but my memory was still stuck up at the fish .. 

Sudden impulse took over and I walked back to find the fish .. I found it floating almost dead few meters inside the sea .. I waded myself inside the sea to pick it up and bring to the shore... 

Not knowing what to do I just started caressing it .. slowly slowly I raised the intention to heal giving it love .. I observed that as I patted it .. it started to flutter it's fins which were motionless till now and struggling.. enthused I stroked it more and more, it started vibrating it's fins more and waging it's tail ..

Life had come back into the fish and it slipped into the sea .. 

I felt overwhelmed.. my feelings were beyond the limitations of our thought process ..

Relearnt a big lesson ..

Unconditional love heals everything... Can even bring life back ...

Though couldn't shoot the whole incident since it was unplanned.. posting a few shots ...

Maybe my mom's soul had come to me to say "Spread the word that unconditional love heals everything" ...

#BodyMindSoul 

Choice of right partner

"I am looking for Mr / Mrs Right"

This is a common answer everybody says or even if not says , is thinking about ..

The question is "Who or What is Mr / Mrs Right" 

Well it depends .. out of many factors the most important fact is the stage of evolution we are in .. 

When we are young we are in the "Body" state. We are attracted by the outside world. For us right partner should be beautiful/ handsome , young , successful. Our thoughts are mainly influenced by attraction. And obviously "Sex" is an undercurrent and somehow "Lust" overpowers us. We are more prone to have "relationships" to discover "Sex" rather than get into a relationship. We make mistakes and learn from our mistakes. 

As we grow up and learn from our mistakes we realize there is something beyond "Body" as well. We give more importance to "Emotions." We start evaluating relationships beyond "Sex" and even "Sex" becomes an emotionally involved act. We start looking for "Soulmates" though we may not fully understand the word "Soulmate" but somewhere we are attracted to people who gel with us irrespective of how they look. We value emotions and want to be with people who understand us. 

This is the "Mind" state of relationship.

Unlike the first case here we may or may not meet our so called "Soulmate."

But as we graduate from the so called "Soulmate" syndrome we understand one thing ... We are not looking for a person who understands us .. but we are looking for "understanding" .. "Understanding ourselves". In this stage we are not looking outside we are looking inside. We suddenly start searching for someone with whom we can be what we are and vice versa. No pretense , no trying to understand.. just being ourselves. This is the "Acceptance" stage of relationship. Here words like sex , caste , creed , age , country , color , height , weight etc doesn't matter. What matters is "Soul Connection" .. Here we understand what "Soul" is all about. Forgiveness starts dawning and "Unconditional" love prevails.

The yearning for "Possession" vanishes and "Acceptance" and "Abundance" envelopes us .. This is "Soul" stage of relationship. Here we actually discover ourselves and start loving ourselves. 

And the final stage is one where we become universal. We realize that we did not want anybody else to complete ourselves.. 

It was we ourselves whom we were looking for all the time 

#BodyMindSoul