Choice of right partner

"I am looking for Mr / Mrs Right"

This is a common answer everybody says or even if not says , is thinking about ..

The question is "Who or What is Mr / Mrs Right" 

Well it depends .. out of many factors the most important fact is the stage of evolution we are in .. 

When we are young we are in the "Body" state. We are attracted by the outside world. For us right partner should be beautiful/ handsome , young , successful. Our thoughts are mainly influenced by attraction. And obviously "Sex" is an undercurrent and somehow "Lust" overpowers us. We are more prone to have "relationships" to discover "Sex" rather than get into a relationship. We make mistakes and learn from our mistakes. 

As we grow up and learn from our mistakes we realize there is something beyond "Body" as well. We give more importance to "Emotions." We start evaluating relationships beyond "Sex" and even "Sex" becomes an emotionally involved act. We start looking for "Soulmates" though we may not fully understand the word "Soulmate" but somewhere we are attracted to people who gel with us irrespective of how they look. We value emotions and want to be with people who understand us. 

This is the "Mind" state of relationship.

Unlike the first case here we may or may not meet our so called "Soulmate."

But as we graduate from the so called "Soulmate" syndrome we understand one thing ... We are not looking for a person who understands us .. but we are looking for "understanding" .. "Understanding ourselves". In this stage we are not looking outside we are looking inside. We suddenly start searching for someone with whom we can be what we are and vice versa. No pretense , no trying to understand.. just being ourselves. This is the "Acceptance" stage of relationship. Here words like sex , caste , creed , age , country , color , height , weight etc doesn't matter. What matters is "Soul Connection" .. Here we understand what "Soul" is all about. Forgiveness starts dawning and "Unconditional" love prevails.

The yearning for "Possession" vanishes and "Acceptance" and "Abundance" envelopes us .. This is "Soul" stage of relationship. Here we actually discover ourselves and start loving ourselves. 

And the final stage is one where we become universal. We realize that we did not want anybody else to complete ourselves.. 

It was we ourselves whom we were looking for all the time 

#BodyMindSoul